4 big signs and types of men derailed
The good husband’s performance is similar, but betrayal has its advantages. When a man starts to betray, his words and behavior will always show some clues.
First, Jin Chan’s shelling: He has always said that he has to work overtime or travel on business, and he has less and less time at home.
Although not all “workaholics” represent emotional derailment, some men will gradually disappear from normal family life before they decide to derail.
At this time, the wife is best to talk to her husband about his work, or learn about his real work situation from the side, but it is better to leave him a room and not to be provocative.
Second, express dissatisfaction: he starts to pick your clothes taste, when you tell him the hard work, he always advises you to see a psychiatrist.
At this point, he may wish you to do better, but it may also be that he is making excuses for derailment.
The wife had better figure out his true thoughts, and some of the questions he asked were changed, or he was encouraged, to make himself more perfect and sober, to see what he would do next.
Third, the desire to be recognized: The husband began to be unable to overcome the fight with the child, and felt that the wife spent less time with him than the child, and was often left out.
Many wives focus on their children after pregnancy, which is likely to lead men to seek knowledge from other people and unknowingly derail.
The best way is to try to talk to your husband once and tell him that the child needs more care now, but your love for him has not diminished.
Fourth, there is nothing to say: Refusing to talk, not even looking at you.
Many men gradually lose their interest in chatting with their wives after marriage, often becoming “I have grown up, but you haven’t”, and for this reason refuse to talk further.
At this moment, the wife should take the lead to break the silence and talk to him.
You need to stay calm and encourage him to give more advice to help you grow.
There are usually several types of “out-of-marital affairs”: romantic sexuality, dew love, emotional attraction and long-term relationship.
The first two types basically do not involve emotional expenditures, and the parties often change the out-of-marital relationship.
And this repeated change of attitude itself indicates that it is an attitude that tries to avoid emotional involvement, just to satisfy a passion, which often fades over time with the physical familiarity of each otherIt even disappeared.
Intimacy and mutual commitment are missing in these relationships.
The two types of derailed people generally do not want to be separated from their spouse and maintain feelings and responsibilities with each other. They belong to the type of “red flags do not fall at home, and colorful flags flutter outside.”
But they usually think blatantly that “something romantic” is not a big deal.
The latter two are much more complicated, and they will have a higher emotional commitment to the new relationship, which may last for a long time.
Emotionally attractive extramarital affairs endings usually abandon the old people, take on the embrace of new love, and also hold the banner of “love”. Long-term relationship extramarital affairs is an excellent embodiment of the “wife-sad psychology” of Chinese men since ancient times. GenerallyThis is reluctant, and I don’t want to let it go.